ATHENS (MARCH)
WHEN I received the news of your daughter Tullia's death,I -was indeed much grieved and distressed as I was bound to be,and looked upon it as a calamity in which I shared.For,if I had been at home,I should not have failed to be at your side,and should have made my sorrow plain to you face to face.That kind of consolation involves much distress and pain,because the relations and friends,whose part it is to offer it,are themselves overcome by an equal sorrow.They cannot attempt it without many tears,so that they seem to require consolation themselves rather than to be able to afford it to others.Still I have decided to set down briefly for your benefit such thoughts as have occurred to my mind,not because Isuppose them to be unknown to you,but because your sorrow may perhaps hinder you from being so keenly alive to them.
Why is it that a private grief should agitate you so deeply?Think how fortune has hitherto dealt with us.Reflect that we have had snatchcd from us what ought to be no less dear to human beings than their children--country,honour,rank,every political distinction.What additional wound to your feelings could be inflicted by this particular loss?Or where is the heart that should not by this time have lost all sensibility and learn to regard everything else as of minor importance?Is it on her account,pray,that you sorrow?How many times have you recurred to the thought--and I have often been struck with the same idea--that in times like these theirs is far from being the worst fate to whom it has been granted to exchange life for a painless death?Now what was there at such an epoch that could greatly tempt her to live?
What scope,what hope,what heart's solace?That she might spend her life with some young and distinguished husband?How impossible for a man of your rank to select from the present generation of young men a son-in-law,to whose honour you might think yourself safe in trusting your child!Was it that she might bear children to cheer her with the sight of their vigorous youth?
Who might by their own character maintain the position handed down to them by their parent,might be expected to sta~id for the offices in their order,might exercise their freedom in supporting their friends?What single one of these prospects has not been taken away before it was given?But,it will be said,after all it is an evil to lose one's children.Yes,it is:only it is a worse one to endure and submit to the present state of things.
